In one class, Sam forgot an an assignment, and the teacher gave him two weeks of detention. He desperately wanted to tell people what was happening, but because of his declining grades and withdrawn behavior, there were few welcoming sources of support.
He was raised in a very small town, the type where the school principal is also an elected official, and one of his parents was employed by the school district. When Sam walked into a school counselor’s office, ready to disclose, he was turned away by an employee who assumed he was there to talk about college applications.
Although many children with sexual behavior problems have a history of sexual abuse, most children who have been sexually abused do not develop sexual behavior problems.
While he worked, the man surprised him by touching him inappropriately.
The abuse continued for another five years and included violent rape and other crimes.
Don't wait for your child to come to you with questions about his or her changing body — that day may never arrive, especially if your child doesn't know it's OK talk to you about this sensitive topic.
Ideally, as a parent, you've already started talking to your kids about the changes our bodies go through as we grow.